A Day Worth Celebrating

Today marks the 1yr Anniversary of the day I almost lost my Mom. I keep my private life…private. However, I am aware that sharing SOME things can help others better understand who you are and what you’ve overcome.

One Hospital Stay at a Time

Today is also my Syd’s Birthday. Last year while out shopping for Syd’s gift with my Hailey; my phone rang. It was my sister. She was crying hysterically and trying to tell me something. I immediately went into big sister mode, remained calm, told her to breathe and tell me what’s going on. She replied, “Mom was in an accident and they had to life flight her to the hospital!” In that moment, I wanted to scream, cry and do all the things you’ve supposed to do when you get that type of news. I had to remain calm. I was in the middle of the store holding my daughter’s gifts, my Hailey was with me and my Sister was already in shambles. I had to be a Big Sister, Mom and Daughter at the same time.

Once things calmed down, (how calm could they REALLY get?), my sister called me from the hospital.

My Mom was hit head on by a Jeep. The collision knocked her  into on coming traffic, where she was hit, again, head on by another car. The 2nd collision sent her over a 15ft embankment.

Almost every bone in Mom’s body was broken from her shoulders down. My Mom was bed ridden in the hospital, she had to undergo several surgeries, she then spent a few months in a nursing home and had to go to therapy to learn how to walk and use her arms again.

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All of this was happening while my Great Aunt and Mom-n-Law were also in the hospital. We couldn’t visit anyone because of the Covid restrictions. My Mom lives in North Carolina. The only way I could “visit” her was through FaceTime when her nurse or my Sister was available to help with the phone.

My Mom is a SUPER Christian and we share a bunch of inside jokes…well, they’re my jokes but she always laughs at them. I told her since she is a Sergeant in the Army of the Lord it helped her win this battle. Lol!

I was going through a tremendous amount at this time. Somehow, I remained calm on the outside. I had to…I’m a Mom, a Big Sister and a Daughter.

This is all I’ll share for now… Hold your loved ones close (no matter who you consider a loved one), check up on them, tell them you love them and practice Self-care.

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Moms react to Time’s provocative breast-feeding cover

Moms react to Time’s provocative breast-feeding cover

By Jessica Yadegaran
Contra Costa Times

Posted:   05/11/2012 06:56:06 PM PDT
Updated:   05/12/2012 06:51:22 AM PDT

Time’s cover of the May 21, 2012 issue with a photograph of Jamie Lynne Grumet, 26, breastfeeding her 3-year-old son (Time)

For many, the photograph of a sexy blond mother nursing her almost-4-year-old son was provocative enough.

But the headline “Are you Mom Enough?” slapped above the current Time magazine cover story about the latest trends in parenting stung, and has sparked a heated debate about the modern relationship between mom and baby.

The magazine has yet to hit Bay Area newsstands, but the article is already burning up chat rooms and mommy blogs. On Friday, nearly 1,000 people participated in an online chat on the topic at www.mercurynews.com. And on The Bump, a pregnancy and parenting website, thousands of moms buzzed on the topics of breast-feeding past the first year, children sleeping in the parental bed, and wearing baby in a sling — the cornerstones of what’s called “attachment parenting.”

“If they can ask for it and lift up your shirt, it’s time to stop feeding them on the breast,” read a post on The Bump by Elizabeth.

Another poster, Trinity, praises the cover girl. “I would high-five that woman,” she says. “I don’t plan on breast-feeding past one year, but I do know it’s perfectly normal to do so, especially in other cultures. Americans freak out. But hey, that kids’ probably got an immune system of steel!”

While the Time cover is certainly provocative, it’s also somewhat misleading, as the article focuses largely on the life of attachment parenting guru William Sears and the impetus for his 1992 “The Baby Book” book, which has sold 1.5 million copies and celebrates its 20th anniversary this year. The Orange County pediatrician believes children are more likely to thrive both physically and emotionally when reared in a child-centered environment that includes breast-feeding long past the first year and sharing a family bed.

But it is that photo of a svelte, beautiful mother of four pictured with her suckling preschooler and without so much as a centimeter of baby weight that some moms in the Bay Area find particularly inflammatory.

“(The cover) is purposefully divisive and rude,” says Janna Lipman Weiss, a 40-year-old Walnut Creek mother of two. The former molecular biologist referenced the Sears book during her daughters’ early years, breast-feeding for four-and-a-half years all together.

But not everything Sears preaches worked for her.

“My first one didn’t like being touched all the time, so even if I wanted to follow Sears, my daughter wasn’t having it,” Lipman Weiss says. Also, Sears’ suggestion to nurse around the clock and somehow deal with the accompanying bleary-eyed sleeplessness was particularly irksome — and impossible — for her.

Breast-feeding has always been a

controversial topic. Questions like “How old is too old?” or “Are you a bad mom if you don’t do it?” have long plagued anxiety-ridden new mothers, says Shannon Guyton, the Los Angeles-based site director for The Bump.

But one thing’s for sure, she says. “Every mom who’s breast-fed knows that Time photo is not an accurate view of breast-feeding,” she says. “There’s not a single sexy thing about it.”

According to a 2006 study by the Centers for Disease Control, only 13.6 percent of babies in the U.S. are exclusively breast-fed through the first six months of life, which is what the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends. The World Health Organization recommends a full year of exclusive breast-feeding.

In the Bay Area, the initiation rate of breast-feeding — how many moms are breast-feeding when they leave the hospital — is 95 percent, according to Nancy Held, a lactation consultant, registered nurse and vice president of Day One Centers, which has locations in Palo Alto and Walnut Creek.

“That’s very high,” says Held, who was interviewed by John Sasaki of KTVU for a report on reaction to the Time cover. “Then we have people going back to work and pumping and things drop off.”

Held says the thought of anyone breast-feeding for a year makes her happy. Everyone hears stories about women who are still breast-feeding their 5-year-olds, but that is hardly the norm, she says.

“I think to be clear, the image was used by Time magazine for shock

value,” Held says. “Dr. Sears has been around for 20 years, so there’s nothing new about him. Parents have become much more anxious in the past 10 years, so our job is to support them and give them the confidence that only they can decide what’s right for their baby.”

There are varying degrees of attachment parenting: Some believers would never leave their babies for a date night or let them utter a cry without running to their side. Others take a more moderate approach, believing in the research-based studies that show how skin-to-skin contact improves the emotional well-being and development of an infant and helps increase mom’s milk production.

Naysayers claim that extreme attachment parenting such as breast-feeding into toddlerhood — or Sears’ gentle prodding that staying home with baby is best — threatens to rewind the feminist movement.

Samantha Cook, a freelance educator and Oakland mother of three, disagrees. She has been a proponent of the attachment parenting style a decade and believes it is about creating strong family bonds.

“I think it’s empowering for women to be able to parent in the way we want,” says Cook, 35. But she admits she has received criticism from friends, particularly on the East Coast, for her parenting choices, which include breast-feeding each child for a minimum of two years and co-sleeping with her 7- and 9-year old boys.

“That’s when our king-sized bed comes in handy,” she says.